How a fetish is created? How come every time I look at a woman who wears high heels I get exited and when I look at the same woman when she wears sinkers - it does nothing to me?
Like many things in social Science, there isn't any accurate scientific explanation of this phenomenon but there is a general theory that gives us more or less understand the concept. It calls "socialization".
Socialization (from Wikipedia) is the process of inheriting and disseminating norms,customs and ideologiese. For example: if in our society thin women are considered to be more beautiful than fat women, an individual will absorbed this opinion and start to believe it. It's hard to believe but once, before the era of abundance, fat women were considered to be more beautiful.
How exactly these social codes permeate a person? One of the most significant factors are television and cinema. In our days, young children discover the world Mainly through television and especially cartoons. In these cartoons we all learn the gender codes. Think of all the Disney movies: What the heroine looks like? How she dressed? How the differences between males and females are expressed in various movies?
I won't expand about the significance of gender in those movies and how they damage the status of women (and they do). I want to make one point clear: these movies are part of the basis of our sexual fantasies as well as the basis for fetishism.
While cartoons are generally naive movies, the movies that we see as we ages are much more sexual and much more fetish designers. Think about the classic movie scene in which a car stops, the door opens and a stunning and super sexy woman gets out while in the background you hear some sexy jazz tune. What will be the first thing we will see? It will probably be her
sexy stilettos heels. It's a common film role - when you want to present a sexy lady the camera should go bottom-up and of course the lady has to wear high heels. At the moment that the person who see theses movies gets used to the idea that sexy women always wear high heels an associative connection between that element (high heels) and sex is created.
But socialization is not only generated by Television and Film - our parents, and our mothers in particular, has great influence as well. It was Freud who claimed that in our early childhood we (the boys) are developing the first sexual attraction to no other than our mother. Our mother in those years is the only woman in our lives and naturally we fall in love with her and become sexually attracted to her. In the same way girls become sexually attracted to there father. Freud claimed also that girls focus all there sexual attraction into one object - there father penis. They don't have a penis so they long to get one. The male genitalia becomes the object of attraction of the girls and for that reason the phenomenon of fetishism is much less common with women.
And what about the boys? Boys unconsciously looks for something that his mother has and he doesn't. At this point all sort of feminine clothing can feel this function: heels, tights, skirt etc. These items are like the penis for girls - sexual objects that he will never have and he will always long to have.
This is how a fetish is created.
